Some people like the bitterness of black coffee. I don’t and only take it when I don’t have a choice. To me it leaves behind a sour aftertaste.
I should be taking a nap today as it’s been raining, it’s a Sunday, and I’ve done my Sunday cleaning and reading. Unfortunately, my brain insists that it remain fully active despite my eyes feeling like dried prunes so I’ve decided to update my long neglected blog.
So- bitterness. Some situations leave people bitter and it’s not a good feeling to have as it clouds your mind and makes you see things negatively and makes you feel frustrated. Feeling bitter stops you from moving forward.
I know a close family member who harbours such bitterness towards her own mother. She cannot let go of how her mom mistreated her when she was younger, physically and mentally abusing her. Even as her mom grows more frail by the day, she refuses to let go of the resentment, recalling frequently how bad she was treated growing up.
They speak to each other on and off. Sometimes they become chummy before catapulting off each other a few hours later. To her credit, her mother is a difficult woman to deal with as she has her moments.
The thing is, her mother won’t change. The only way things can improve is by forgiving her mom and making things better for both of them.
There is also a friend of mine who cannot seem to find love. Her heart was broken by a married man and her bitterness grew. She fell for another married man who didn’t feel the same way towards her, making her even more bitter. She began to think all men were the same and found it hard to move forward. She refuses to believe that love exists and closes her heart to those that genuinely love her.
Then there is another business associate who started her journey of being self employed a few years ago. When you’re starting out, you believe that all your ideas are fantastic.
When you share your fantastic idea with your friends, they will usually agree with you that your idea is fantastic and you should go for it. Your business circle however might not agree and will share their experiences and give you the actual picture which may not seem at all rosy, sometimes.
So what do you do? You take your friend’s advice and invest your hard earned money into a business that your business circle has warned you against.
Low and behold, the launch goes great, your friends come, you get media coverage but after a month or two of your launch, you’re not making any money. You then lash out and create posts about how unsupported you feel, not directly but in cute-sy kind of way.
The business circle knows this feeling too well. Friends are not necessarily your customers so despite them being supportive initially, they won’t actually buy your product.
Put the bitterness behind you and start on a new game plan. Get your actual customers input to make your product better or take it as a lesson learnt and create a new product.
In conclusion, here’s a quote from Lee Strobel.
Acrid bitterness inevitably seeps into the lives of people who harbor grudges and suppress anger, bitterness is always a poison. It keeps your pain alive instead of letting you deal with it and get beyond it. Bitterness sentences you to relive the hurt over and over.